I am not someone who has ever wanted to have children, and I feel that this is quite unusual. It seems that most of the people I knew from college now have kids, and part of me wonders why. The thing is, I know why, to a certain extent. Beth sometimes tells me she’s surprised I don’t want to be a father, considering that my tastes and sense of humor are such that children might appreciate more than fellow adults. I just don’t think I could handle the responsibility. No big deal, certainly, but it’s yet another way I feel I don’t fit in with society in general. It seems that even a lot of people who don’t have kids have at least considered the possibility, but for me it was always a no. I don’t feel I have the biological urge to reproduce, you know?
Well, according to an article that Trista DiGiuseppi recently referenced, people who don’t want kids are weird. No, scratch that. It’s just WOMEN who don’t want kids who are weird, so I guess I’m off the hook. That does make me wonder how straight men who don’t want children are ever supposed to have long-term relationships, but I have a feeling Ms. Sarler didn’t really think this through.
Indeed, her whole premise that mothers are more responsible than non-mothers is rather absurd, and obviously based entirely on anecdotal evidence. According to Sarler, “It’s not the mothers, for a start, who are going to turn up late and hungover after a night on the razz; they’ll have been up, dressed and alert for hours, having cooked a family breakfast and delivered their children to school. On time.” Yeah, because mothers are NEVER irresponsible. There seems to be some kind of prevalent belief in our society that having kids automatically makes you responsible. While this would be nice, it isn’t the case.
Not to mention that the only reason some people have kids is that they were being irresponsible when having sex. So, yeah, Sarler is as full of crap as a baby’s diaper. I guess women who don’t want children are “weird” insomuch as they differ from the norm, but is that necessarily a bad thing? Also, why does no one want to acknowledge that not having kids doesn’t have to mean you want to get ahead in the cutthroat business world or take extravagant vacations? Maybe, and I’m just throwing this out here, some women (and men) just want relatively hassle-free lives.
Speaking of parents, has anyone managed to figure out Mitt Romney’s position on mothers? He objects to the idea that being a homemaker doesn’t count as work, but also said mothers of two-year-olds should be working (and he obviously meant outside the house). I guess taking care of a family is only work when his own wife does it, not anybody else’s. But trying to figure out Romney’s position on anything is just about as difficult as understanding how he made millions of dollars without ever producing any actual products.