One argument I’ve come across from time to time and never understood is that it’s selfish not to have children. You know what could actually be considered selfish in this respect? If it were the role of an entire community to raise children (you know, “it takes a village” and all that) and someone decided to shirk their part of the responsibility because they didn’t like kids. But not having your own children and then providing for them? How is that selfish? Yeah, I get that child-rearing makes you put someone else over yourself, but if it’s someone else who wouldn’t exist if you hadn’t chosen to bring them into the world (with, admittedly, some exceptions), how is that altruistic? Adopting a kid is more selfless, I’d say, but I know there’s a lot of red tape tied up with that.
Another argument I hear in favor of having kids is, “Who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” Wait, where’s the guarantee that your kids are going to do that? Yes, it’s the right thing to do, but not everybody does the right thing. Isn’t that also assuming your kids will have the resources to take care of you? I get the impression that a lot of parents are having trouble coming to terms with the fact that their children will likely be less financially successful than they are. That’s the way the economy is going. The guy in his thirties who still lives with his parents is getting to be less of a joke and more of a necessary reality, because where else can he realistically go if he doesn’t make enough money for his own place? Perhaps this trend will change at some point, but for the time being, you might well have to support your kids well beyond what you might have bargained for at first. Actually, though, with the situation as it currently is, we’re getting to the point where it’s likely both the parents AND their kids will be out of work, and no one will be able to support anyone. Bleak, isn’t it?